(Mindspill) Thoughts On Love

Hey people, I know it's been a minute, been real busy with my new job and stuff, but I was on facebook replying to a friend's status about if men could love as intensely as women and it drew out all of this from my brain.


Love is a verb.. action, intensity is a measure of focus.. an adjective usually emotion based in a situation like this. I think when you try to pair the two in the idea of a woman loving the man more than they give back (and that that's a measure of love) is a flawed idea.

Love isn't an emotion, and I don't think real love has different levels so you can't intensify the action (it's unconditional). Men tend to be less emotional than women, this drives women nuts when in love because they are assured he doesn't feel as strongly in love.. when in reality that shouldn't even apply to love in and of itself. Also, on the other hand, when a man is visibly and emotionally invested in a deep form he often ends up disregarded by the center of his affection and labeled too feminine (irony?).

A relationship requires more than love, it requires emotion and it's intensity as well as respect, understanding, and attraction. In this case, men tend to not be as emotional, again making women feel that way. Obviously, not all men are mature enough to handle their emotions or impulses (lust, yes all men and women have this impulse attraction to others at some point or another, we're built that way.. born into sin [lust is a sin]) and that causes failures of relationships (NOT love, abuses love though) usually resulting in scorned partners.

Why do you think you can love those you aren't attracted to? Or even lost relationships (regardless of how they are lost)? Your children can grow up to be cold blooded murderers, but you will love them even in your most vast of disappointment, because it's unconditional given the bonds established. Love can't be intensified, it's simply done/existent/given(action) due to the bonds formed for the action to take place. Your ability to love comes from God Himself, the good and wicked are loved equally, even His discipline is done out of love. His justice is done out of love.

I think Love is one of the most misunderstood concepts in humanity, to the point that we actually try to state that we are "in love".. we make love a noun and wrongly associate attributes to it for that form. It is still action, you are in action(movement) emotionally (In love intensely). I think only God has the ability to make action a person place or thing (refer back to "we make love a noun..". This is why God is Love (noun and verb and everything else), and an inherit lacking of ability from Man. Which is why at best we can only be Christ-like, but that's edging into a whole 'nother point.

-Nem